It is so easy to get caught up in the feelings of loving someone so deeply that you put aside your own emotional well being. We quickly ignore the signs of being treated poorly and put up with things that we shouldn’t because, well, of course, “we love them.”
I can be the first to admit that I’ve let far too many things slide when it comes to the person that I love. I put their emotional wellbeing before my own and before I know it, have found myself in a situation where I am asking myself this very question.
Do I deserve more than this?
Then it hit me. If I’m asking this question, the answer is obvious. Yes, of course I do. If I was getting the love and treatment that I deserved this wouldn’t even be a question crossing my mind.
I’d be content. I’d be happy. I wouldn’t be constantly comparing what I have with this person to every other person I know. I wouldn’t need to. I would have everything I need.
It is so easy to get caught up in the wants and needs of the person you are dating. When you love someone so much, it is easy to make him or her a priority. It is easy to put them before yourself. But what you really need to think about is, are they doing the same for you?
Are they putting your needs first? Are they making you a priority? Are they doing everything in their power to make sure of your happiness?
Relationships are a two way street. They only work when both people are putting in the effort. They only work when both individuals are putting in the work to better themselves and better each other. So if you are wondering if you deserve more, my guess is that you are at this same cross roads.
I call it a dead end.
You love this person so much that you would do anything for them. It is easy for you to take care of them and make them your priority. But what’s the point if they aren’t doing the same for you?
There isn’t one. It is time for change. It is time to be made a priority. It is time to get the same effort in return that you are giving.
Because I promise, you do deserve more.
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