If there is anything I have needed to be constantly reminded throughout my grief journey- it’s that I’m not crazy. I’m not doing this wrong. There isn’t something I should be doing better.
Everyone grieves differently. Everyone will handle the loss of a loved one in a different way. The way you handle it doesn’t make you weird. It doesn’t make you wrong. It doesn’t make you any worse off than someone else.
You can never compare the way someone deals with his or her grief to the way you do. Everyone has had a different relationship with the person they lost. Everyone handles and expresses emotion differently. Everyone is on his or her own grief journey.
There isn’t a single person that has gone through what you have. There isn’t a single person who lost the exact relationship you had with that certain person. Nobody can judge you. Nobody can look at you differently. You are allowed to do this your way on your own terms.
No matter who you try to compare yourself to, they will always be different. Whether it was your best friend who also lost his or her mother, or your sibling who lost the same parent that you did, nobody is going through the exact grief experience in the same moment that you are.
You are on your own road. Your own journey. Your own rollercoaster. Grief is filled with ups and downs and highs and lows. Nobody in this world is going through the exact thing as you at this moment.
You aren’t weird.
You are okay.
You will be okay.
One day at a time.
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